Taking Control

Other than Cancer, CONTROL seems to be the most prominent ‘C’ word used by our society today. It’s a word we use when we feel that some aspect of our lives is spiraling beyond our grasp. An iron fist approach to a situation is no guarantee of achieving healthy or happy results, yet there are ways to take control by simply letting go. Stepping back from a situation can offer a clearer perspective and help a negative into a positive. 

 

Even when life seems to be running on a fairly even keel, some event can occur that inflames a situation and begins to grow beyond what we feel we can or want to deal with. An example is the insanity of arguing with a child; an event where no one wins. Whether the situation includes interaction with others or just us, the chaos always includes some drama. It is this element that expands a situation out of our control; the emotional investment.

Answers begin to appear with the removal of the emotional component. One of the ways to do this is to imagine the problem belonging to someone else. You want this to be someone you care about. Even a brother, sister or best friend exist outside your natural emotional energy field. What would your advice to them be? Invariably our advice to another comes from a clearer mind than we use to make choices for ourselves. Emotions distort the truth of a reality.

What if you have been caught in this drama for quite a while or it is one with deep attachments, making detachment seem impossible? There are instances where we have invested so much emotion into a situation that it has woven a thick web of energy that makes objectivity doubly difficult. When this occurs with clients I have them do Casting, or we do a simple circle ritual. This ritual can be accomplished in the outdoors with a drawing in the dirt or in my office space with a piece of paper. 

 

Start with drawing a large circle. Inside the circle place or draw an object that represents the problem. Then place something to represent you in this situation. If you are doing this outside in the dirt you can use stones; if you are drawing it on paper just make an X or heart for yourself. Affirm out loud who and what is what. Then draw or cut a line that separates you from the problem. Within moments you will feel tension leave your body. Without taking control, you’ve taken charge of yourself again.   

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